Your Partner Is Your Mirror, What Does It Show?

There are many people in whom we can see a mirror image of ourselves, such as family and friends. But the most important relationship is what you have with your partner. If you have open eyes, you will realize that your partner is your mirror.

Despite not being very aware of the implications, the truth is that if you have an open mind towards your partner, you will allow yourself to be more honest with yourself. In addition, you will notice many things you may not always be equally aware of.

But if your partner is your mirror, how can you see your own reflection in them? Today we discuss how you can observe yourself through the relationship with your partner.

It’s not them, it’s you

Does it bother you that your partner gets up without making the bed? Do you want to stop being a perfectionist? Does it make you nervous that they are so independent? All of these questions contain anger, a certain amount of repression, and an unbearable nervousness about your partner’s behavior. But remember: They are your mirror.

What does it mean if your partner never cleans up? Maybe, instead of complaining, you should ask yourself, “Why am I so inflexible?”

If your partner is very concerned that everything should be so neat, on the verge of being a perfectionist, maybe you should pay attention and find out which aspects you do not give 100% in. Why do not you do your best? Why do you think it’s okay to be “good enough”?

If it makes you nervous that your partner is independent, that he / she is going out with his / her friends, and maybe you feel a little left out, ask yourself, is my partner everything to me? Do I have time for both my friends and myself? 

Everyone is different

These were just a few examples of how your partner is your mirror. Everyone is different, and what bothers you does not necessarily bother others. It is important to realize this.

Do you hate the way they talk so loud? Does it embarrass you that they are always kidding? In that case, things that bother you are also a part of you, and that is why they bother you.

Think for a moment about the first question we asked. If your partner made the bed, would you notice? It most likely would not mean anything to you. But the moment he / she does not, then it reflects a lack of flexibility in you, and there are some aspects of your life you need to find out.

Your partner is your mirror and will help you get to know yourself better

The fact that your partner is your mirror is not a bad thing, it is quite the opposite. It is an aid to being able to get to know yourself better, and can open your eyes to a reality that one tends to avoid.

A painful but clear example is when people are abused. What does the abused person reflect ? That they do not respect themselves, they lose themselves. While difficult to admit, it is true. They abuse themselves by giving power to someone who does not love them. This includes a loss of self-confidence.

The mirror, like all other mirrors, should be an opportunity to see each other clearly, and make a decision. Some mirrors are very revealing, for example in this painful example that many people experience every day.

If your partners are your mirror, use it! Look in the mirror, without a mask, without denial, and without being someone you are not.

Accept your mistakes and shortcomings. This will allow you to get to know yourself better, make the right decisions, and even change for the better.

Change the way you treat people or circumstances that make you think you are a victim, when in reality they are helping you.

Teach yourself to become stronger, to change direction, to take control of your own life. Look straight into the eyes of your faults, so that they cease to be present, and instead make you stronger.

If your partner is your mirror, what do they reflect?

Photos: Laura Williams, Flora Borsi, David Talley.