Some People Inspire You, Others Wear You Out

Our minds are greatly affected by our interactions. This is especially true for the interactions we have every day. There are people who inspire you and get you in a good mood. They give you energy and positivity.

But there are also people who cause all kinds of negative emotions. This can happen without them noticing. They wear us out. This exhaustion has nothing to do with physical work. It’s not like carrying something heavy or running a marathon. We are talking about a mental exhaustion.

There is something that both neurology and psychology tell us you should know: our brain works differently if we are extroverted than it does if we are introverted.

An introverted brain, for example, needs moments of loneliness. These allow them to “charge the batteries”. Being exposed to many hours of social interaction is difficult for them. They may struggle if they are with someone who is very talkative, curious, critical, or obsessive. This can also start to overwhelm them mentally.

We all have our own levels of being social. However, there are some who have their own spark and bring happiness to those around them. But on the other hand, there are those who see a problem with every solution. Those who create trouble even if the day started calmly.

In this article we will take a look at these realities. After all, we meet them every day!

People who inspire you

Among the circle of friends and family, you have someone who inspires you. They are the people who are real treasures. This is because they find a way to build us up every day.

These people are like landmarks in our lives. They give us support. They also give us direction since they can help us see the forest for the trees. Their wisdom does not come from books. It comes from their reason. They have acquired this wisdom through a reflective, intuitive and intelligent mind. Let’s take a look at several features they have.

The people who inspire you, people we do not take into account

There are friends who look us in the eye and know what we are thinking. They are able to read between the lines. They need no more than look at us to know when we need help. This support and warmth help to give us strength.

• These properties come from the right hemisphere of the brain. This area is more reflective, creative and observant than the left side of the brain. It connects everything with an emotional world.

• The person who inspires you understands reciprocity. They understand the importance of both giving and receiving. They also understand the importance of making choices where everyone can win.
• At the same time, they do not look like any other people. They are not arrogant. These people do not have to show that they know more than others.

Those who inspire you do not bother others. Instead, they let things be. They give us an example that we can follow. At the same time, they respect our choices, thoughts and opinions.

The person who wears us out

As we said at the beginning, we all have a threshold for tolerance for social interaction. Those who are more outgoing do not get as tired of talkative people, those who joke, or general energetic people. On the other hand, those on whom the brain functions at a more relaxed level must be careful. Some of these energetic people may wear out introverts.

Now, that’s something we can all agree on. Some people are always uncomfortable being around. They can be either mentally harmful or physically careless.

These are some of the characteristics they may have:

• They are negative people.
• They only look for problems, issue criticism without being asked. They always see the glass as half empty.
• Besides being negative, they are convinced that the world is against them. This type of person has no respect for others.
• They do not give respect because they only think of themselves. They can not look past their own nose. Their first and last thought is to take care of number one.

It is not easy to live with this type of person. They have a closed mind. What’s even worse is that they are unable to use their hearts to understand the world around them.

You can find people like this everywhere. They can be in your family or in your workplace. Since they are so common, we want to give you some ideas for dealing with negative characteristics that may arise.

How to survive with people who wear us out?

Do not try to run from them. After all, we all have someone like that in our families. They think it’s normal to talk the way they do. It can be the same with a friend or partner who struggles with the way they talk.

• It is important to distance yourself from the two of you. Have respect, but be firm.

• They may resent or like to be critical of others, and love to talk about it. Let them know that these conversations do not interest you.
• Do not reject them and do not be condescending.
• Put a respectful distance between you. Make it clear that you understand and respect them. But your way of thinking and living is not the same.
• If you have to spend a lot of time with people like this, try to talk and listen as little as possible. You can also try to imagine a pleasant and relaxing scene where you can get away from them.

Later, when you are far from them, relax. Do not give them a place in your mind. Try to find something positive to do.