Some Matches Are Not Worth Fighting

Do not bow to things or people that are not worth fighting for. We just have to fight for things that bring happiness into our lives, not things that other people force us to do.

Instead of looking at these facts as losses, we should look at them for what they really are: things that we put a lot of hope in, but realize that they were not actually worth fighting for.

Experiencing personal growth, maturation, and getting ahead in life as time goes on, is like putting the pieces of a more or less perfect puzzle together.

Throughout a period of time in our lives, we take comfort in putting impossible pieces in the wrong places.

Only time and hindsight mean that we will eventually see the truth, which is that there are things and people that belong on other maps than ours.

In the following text, we suggest that you reflect on this.

Sometimes it is necessary to lose battles that are not worth fighting

In our youth, many things come our way without even choosing them. It’s like rafting down a raging river, nervous and full of life.

An example of the youthful mistakes we make is that we fall in love with the first person we see, and they “blow us away”.

Another example is that we make friends with people just because we meet them often. For example, these people may be classmates or friends of friends. Accepting these people as friends is similar to the situation where you are served a meal that you end up not liking, but you eat it anyway so as not to disappoint the person who made the food.

In this phase of our lives , we act in this way because we have only one goal: to be integrated into a community, or in other words, to fit in.

This is exactly what teens do,

But as we get older, things will change. There comes a day when we become selective when we choose friends or matches to fight – very selective. In other words, we know exactly what we want and what we do not want in our lives.

Quality over quantity

Finally comes the day when we have a few real friends instead of many fake friends.

We take a look back as we assess our emotions. However, the right thing to do is take a look at what your heart is telling you, as it helps you recognize certain things. For example:

• We finally realize that there were aspects of life that we thought were very important, but now we realize that they were not.
• For example, if you used to appreciate having a successful social life and having many friends before, you now appreciate smaller groups.
• If you filled your head with many wild projects, now focus on just one goal at a time.
• It is also possible that you fought battles that left you with pain. For example, you may have wished a person would love you, be recognized by your family, show everyone that you were good enough…

• But now you may give up these fights. This is because you are wiser. Furthermore, you can also follow your intuition that tells you that you should not continue to fight for things that push you further away from true self-confidence.

You just have to show one person that you are good enough and that person is you. If some people do not love you, the last thing you should do is beg for love.

To mature is to experience personal growth

These are battles that are not worth fighting at all.

Fighting them is like contradicting yourself. Also, it’s like trying to get certain people to change their minds or to be someone you wished they were.

• As we grow older, we realize that there are paths we should not take. Especially those who others say we must follow and who go against our being.
• Ultimately, personal growth means that we bravely say what we want and what we do not want.  Without fear of what others will think or say.
• Taking our chosen path requires that we cut ties with certain people. And finally certain links. It means giving up on what brings us tears and many struggles.

We do this to get something more important: dignity.

This type of personal step is not easy to take. For example, there are still many people who continue to fight impossible battles with things that destroy them and their self-esteem.

How to end battles it is not worth fighting

The main thing first: it is not easy. Escape from these personal battlefields requires a lot of work.

Unfortunately, we sometimes believe that the worthy choice is to continue fighting for impossible conditions.

For example, we have all had friends that we have hung out with, but they continue to betray us again and again. Other examples are:

• We tell ourselves that, as a good daughter, niece or nephew, we must give everything to our family.
• But many of these battles have already been lost. Because they only give us pain, and because these people will never change, even if we mean otherwise.
• Even if it hurts, it is sometimes best to cut certain people out of your life. It is better to  get out of these “toxic environments” that destroy our self-esteem. Remember that those who hurt you the most simply do not love you.

Remember that bold people do not put all their energy into something without getting something back.

Instead, they are able to fight the battles that are worth fighting in this life: the battles for their own happiness and the happiness of their loved ones.