9 Scientific Ways To Make Others Like You

The secret to getting those around you to like you is first and foremost not to pretend that you are someone you are not, because sooner or later your mask will fall

The human brain is programmed to establish bonds with others for a variety of reasons, not just survival.

We seek positive emotions to grow, ease our fears and continue to learn every day.

You probably know that “please” or get in touch with those around you is not always easy.

Sometimes you isolate yourself in loneliness, and never develop sufficient social skills to make friends and start new romantic relationships.

Here are some simple tips that are scientifically proven to be helpful.

However, remember to only try those that suit your personality and to always be YOURSELF.

1. Do not overuse compliments to make people like you more

Do not do this. Never fall into the trap of praising someone so much that you invent virtues just to make yourself seem more friendly. This never works.

Be subtle when it comes to flattery because sometimes “less will be more”. This principle is supported by the theory of gain and loss in interpersonal attraction.

Compliments are only meaningful when they are sporadic and given at the right time.

With a profit, your credibility can be lost.

2. Show your mistakes, but only now and then

There is no doubt that you have also noticed this behavior. When someone explains how careless, clumsy or forgetful they are, it creates a certain closeness to those around them.

It is easy to identify with this type of behavior. People who are “vulnerable” in one way or another seem to be more human. This makes us, almost immediately, feel empathy with these behaviors and people.

There are many experiments that demonstrate this fact. Someone who loses coffee when they enter a room, who stumbles, or is often incorrect, is usually much more alike.

Be close, touch from time to time, but in a “subtle” way

For others to like you, invading others’ intimate zone is the last thing you need to do. Do not be too close or “glued” to them, otherwise you will only create discomfort and rejection.

• However, subtle behaviors of trust and closeness can “give an impression.”
• A pat on the shoulder or a soft, almost imperceptible touch on the arm can create a quick emotional connection.

4. See others as they see themselves

You have to be intuitive. Everyone has a certain image of themselves. If others treat you in a way that is the opposite of how you see yourself, you will be filled with feelings of rejection.

If a person is confident, brave and outgoing, do not make them believe that you see them as shy and self-conscious. Be smart, observe and use what is known as the “theory of self-validation”.

5. Let them talk about themselves and above all, LISTEN

Provide sufficient space for communication. Let others talk about themselves and be receptive, show interest.

• For others to like you, you need to be empathetic and know how to practice emotional openness. One of the best strategies for getting closer to another person is to make them feel comfortable enough to talk about their life.

Harvard University published an interesting study on this behavior. The areas of the brain associated with motivation and reward are activated when you share information about yourself.

This is a very positive thing, emotionally.

6. “Copy” something from the other person

This does not mean that you put your personality on hold to take on the other person. It’s much easier than all that.

• For others to like you, you need to make connections, and to get closer, there is nothing better than establishing kinship and similarities.
• New York University defined this behavior as the chameleon effect. Imitating any movement, word, or behavior can help you “connect” much better with the other person.

7. Reveal a secret

What better way to create a bond than by sharing a secret? This type of openness can establish the intimate foundation of your emotional foundation, which is important for testing and strengthening a relationship.

• People do this with their friends and romantic partners.
• The technique of “self-opening” must be practiced carefully. You need to be intuitive when deciding who you want to share your secret with.

• Be careful and follow not only your heart, but also your intuition and your mind.

8. Become friends with your friends

We want to emphasize again that it is not a question of putting aside who you are or your personality. To be like, you have to show interest in things that surround that person and define them.

• Something as useful as establishing relationships with the person’s friends can always guarantee success in these situations.
• Think about how reassuring it feels to have your partner  get along with your friends. We all have important people around us.

• If these bonds are in harmony, we will enjoy a more complete, happier life.

Researchers describe this dimension as the “triadic axis”. Having more people in common increases the likelihood of becoming more intimate.

9. Always express good humor

Positive emotions are powerful. A smile and a laugh can light up the heart and generate a positive attitude or even love.

You should remember this fact: if you want someone to like you, do not focus on just talking about your problems and fears. Do not drag your clouds over the one you are trying to dazzle.

Practice the art of infectious emotions because they always win: make that person laugh and see you as someone who knows how to get the best out of every moment.

Emotions are powerful when it comes to creating bonds. Generate good energy, make the difficult easier, and learn to connect with others from your heart, but always while protecting your self-esteem.