Some Things Happen For A Reason, While Others Do Not

Sometimes things happen for a reason because you have been striving for something. You have given your whole life to achieve this long-awaited achievement, and because fate has finally smiled at you by letting you achieve that dream.

On the other side of the coin, there are all the other things that are not going to pass because it is not the right time. The situation was not ripe, or because luck – perhaps bad luck  – kept you from getting what you wanted.

It is strange how life always maintains this strange balance, where sometimes everything goes as planned, and other times it seems to be the opposite.

You hope for so much on a daily basis, so sometimes it can feel like nothing is moving forward. Nothing comes your way, and that fate has forgotten you. It’s time to look at things from a different perspective.

You are responsible for your own existence, and if you want something you should go out and look for it. Fate and luck can follow you at times, but it is you, your attitude, and your own will that will pave the way in your life.

We invite you to reflect on this.

Things happen “for a reason”

There is no doubt that you have been in this situation: A colleague, a neighbor or a friend comes to you with a comment about how lucky you are in life and how well it is going for you and that everything happens for a reason.

You answer that instead of being ” luck “, it is actually your “daily effort and will”. Because not everything happens without you knowing why, and most of the time it is you who makes things happen, thanks to your own dedication.

Bad luck and luck

Is there such a thing as luck or bad luck? As with everything else in the world. Is there a small percentage who are exposed to random or uncontrollable things that will always escape your will. You can not avoid contracting certain diseases or being in an accident, nor can you “control” the reactions or desires of the people around you.

• Luck and bad luck actually exist, but in small doses that you have to accept and understand. That said, everything else happening around you is something you are able to control.
• Now, what happens in many cases is that you are not fully aware of your ability to control and choose.

• Psychologists say that it is a “locus of internal or external control”. People with an external control are those who attribute what happens to them to the coincidences or to the will of other people.
• They feel a sense of helplessness when something goes wrong or they fail, but it is always due to external factors and never their own fault.
• This is not sufficient. These people need to learn to develop their internal control where they see themselves as responsible for their own lives.

Only then can you learn from your mistakes and understand that there are many good things that come your way because you deserve them.

Things happen that are not “for a reason”

Everyone wants to find happiness, but what if they can not? Is there an invisible, negative force that prevents them from finding it? Unhappiness undoubtedly has some very concrete origins that you need to know how to identify. If something does not happen, there is always a reason for it. Maybe there are certain factors that you should learn to meet, that you can turn to in something that is to your advantage.

Fear

Fear is the primary root of unhappiness. And the biggest reason why you miss the opportunity for “something to happen” that is new, good, or enriching.

• Fear cuts your wings and prevents you from responding. In addition, do not forget that a person who is afraid of something will leave it in the hands of others. This is what triggers a locus of external control that we talked about earlier.

Indecision

• Everyone has experienced indecision at some point. It is the anxious attitude that prevents you from acting and keeps things from happening around you.
• Life, little by little, becomes just a movie played outside your window, where you will never be the main character.

If you have reached the point in your life where you feel that nothing has happened, nothing changes, and nothing is going to happen. E r it is time to get out and “make things happen”.

The danger of waiting too long

When you wait for something too long, you can lose your hopes and dreams. Your train will pass you and you will notice that you have lost everything. Happiness is not what you expect to happen, like a sunrise; happiness is created and can be felt. And you have to give it a shape from within yourself. It’s time to stop waiting for things to happen for a reason.

Get rid of your fears, turn off  uncertainties.  Stay away from people who want to steer you according to their will and stick to you. Being healthy means being on the move, getting out of the routine and comfort zone. Dare to make your dreams come true.