36 Questions That Can Lead To Infatuation

Everyone knows that one of the keys to falling in love is the experience of mutual intimacy. Achieving a bond of trust and fellowship with another person can generate intense, almost magical emotions that can lead to infatuation and a wonderful love.

You know that the attraction between two people can sometimes not be explained by logic.

But there are still countless studies being done to try to find out how chemistry actually works. They strive to explain the strange behaviors and impulses that bring couples together, creating emotions so strong that they can last for months, years, or even life.

The man behind the questions

In fact, in 1996, Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the Interpersonal Relations Department of Stony Brook University, New York,  conducted an interesting experiment in his laboratory.

His goal was to find out how the variables that can establish a strong and intimate bond between two strangers actually worked, using a series of questions.

At first, Aaron’s work was not an experiment that would lead to falling in love. His goal was purely professional, and he carried it out in clinical laboratory settings.

Nevertheless, The New York Times republished  his study in January 2015, through an essay written by another academic, Mandy Len Catron.

The motivation? According to Catron, in fact, the 36 questions that Professor Aron had created to study intimacy between two people could lead to infatuation.

She had repeated his study, and had proof that the results were true. We are sure that today’s article will interest you, so keep reading to find out how these questions work.

The 36 questions that can lead to falling in love

The 36 questions can be sorted into three sets.

If you are going to try this with a stranger, go slowly forward and start with the first set of questions to see how it goes.

If you begin to feel uncomfortable, it is best to stop asking questions, but if you feel that a certain degree of trust is being created and you feel comfortable enough to move on, move on. The experience alone is worth it.

How do the questions work?

The questions you are about to read go into very intimate and personal details. In fact, it is likely that many who are in long-term relationships have never stopped to consider more than a few of the issues discussed here.

Even if you are in a relationship at the moment, it may be interesting to try this test. No matter what situation you are in, we are sure you will find it useful.

This is far from a simple set of questions. Every single question will probably touch you deeply.  Your fears, personal needs, faults and virtues will come to light –  feelings and thoughts that can usually be well hidden, but that show who you really are.

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These questions can lead to falling in love if you go through the questions with the right person. But you can go through these questions with anyone, even if you are not looking to fall in love yet.

As you respond, you will open yourself to someone you want to see as an equal person, someone who will know and understand you, and you will see that your soul is reflected in their eyes.

You should follow these guidelines:

• Choose a quiet place.
• Read each question aloud. Both parties must answer each question before proceeding.
• Both parties should have visual contact with each other at all times.
• There are three sets of questions. Take a break at the end of each set and find out when you are ready to move on to the next set.

Are you ready?

The first set of questions

• If you could choose anyone in the world, who would you invite to dinner?
• Would you like to be famous? Famous for what?

• Before you have a phone call, do you practice what to say? Why or why not?
• Describe a “perfect” day for you.
• When was the last time you sang to yourself? When was the last time you sang for someone else?
• If you were able to live until you were 90 years old… Would you prefer: To have a healthy mind, or to have the body of a 30 year old?
• Do you think you know how you are going to die?
• Name three things you want to have in common with your partner.
• What are you most grateful for in your life?
• If you could change anything about your upbringing, what would it be?
• Share the story of your life in four minutes.
• If you could wake up tomorrow and have a new quality or ability, what would it be?

The second set of questions

• If you could ask a crystal ball one question about yourself, your life, the future or something else, what would you ask?
• Is there something you have wanted to do for a long time? Why did you not do that?
• What is the biggest achievement of your life?
• What do you value most in a friendship?
• What is your most valuable memory?
• What is your most horrible memory?
• If you suddenly found out you’re going to die in a year, would you change the way you live now? Why?
• What does friendship mean to you?
• What role do love and grief play in your life?

• Describe five things you look for in a partner.
• Do you have a good relationship with your family? Do you feel that you had a happier childhood than most people?
• What do you think about your relationship with your mother?

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The third set of questions

• Make three true statements using the word “we.” For example: “We ask each other questions,” “We are both calm…”
• Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone to share…”
• If you suddenly become your partner’s close friend instead of lover, share the most important thing you want them to know.
• Tell the person next to you what you like about him or her.
• Describe an embarrassing moment in your life.
• When was the last time you cried in front of someone else? And alone?

• Describe what you like about the friends you have now.
• What, if anything, do you think is something that is too serious to joke about?
• If you were to die tonight without the opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not saying? Why have you not said that yet?
• Your house, along with everything in it, is on fire. Once you have rescued your loved ones and pets, you can go back and save one last thing. What would it be? Why?
• Of all the people in your family, whose death will affect you the most. Why?
• Share a personal problem and ask the person sitting next to you for advice on how they would have handled the situation.

To conclude: Research on human relationships and emotions is always fascinating. But do not forget that 36 questions in themselves can not lead to infatuation if the other person is not the right one for you.

This is because love does not listen to reason or explanations. Sometimes all it takes is a glance, and other times it can take years to realize that you love someone.  No matter how it happens, love is always an adventure worth experiencing.