Learn How To Get Closer To Your Children To Give Them Advice

Teaching your children to develop their maximum potential and play their part in society is no easy task. For this  you have to learn to  get closer to the children  your. This way you can give them advice and prevent any mistakes.

If you do not learn to approach them, they may reject you  when you want to give them advice or help that they have not asked for. Therefore, it is important to maintain good communication with your children.

You need to learn to communicate as a family, to express how you feel, and to empathetically understand your children’s feelings. From there, you can promote a bond built on a foundation of love and affection.

It is important to learn to approach children when they are young. If you do not dedicate time and do not set aside time for conversations while they are young, it is unlikely that you will be able to engage in honest and productive dialogues with them when they reach adolescence.

Tips for getting closer to your children

• If you have several children,  it is a good idea to talk to each of them separately, and dedicate a separate space to each of them. This must be done regularly.
• When they are young, playing with them is a great way to get closer to their children, emotionally speaking. Ultimately, when we play with our children, they notice and feel our interest as parents for them and for their activities.
• Watching a family movie also helps you to have things in common with your children. This also opens the door for conversations about what they thought about what they saw, allowing you to know their views, know how they think, how they see things, and their personality.

• Hug, kiss and caress your children. Do not avoid physical contact. Strengthening emotional ties is  fundamental, which brings us closer to them.

• In addition, you will spend time together as a family. The time they spend watching television or playing video games alone should be short. Otherwise they are easily isolated.
• Give your children a healthy, valuable gift such as books and games. These should, in addition to developing their abilities, make them play together and create an instant emotional connection.

Other important tips to get closer to your children

• You should promote family meals  at least  twice a week. Dinner or lunch on the weekends helps to unite the family. It is also important that the children cooperate in the preparation of the food. With this, they will learn to cook and the value of the collaboration.
• It is important to  plan trips or  family outings to spend time together and have new experiences. This also unites you a lot as a family.
• Teaching your children sports activities such as skating, cycling or swimming is a valuable experience for them, which also strengthens the connection between parents and children.

Things we should not do with our children

Making generalizations and saying that they always do something wrong or that they never do something good  reduces their self-esteem. With such affirmations, your children may come to believe that they are not really good at anything.

In the same way,  ridicule or the use of sarcasm and irony has an equally negative impact, even if it is unintentional. The truth is that instead of entertaining them, it will make them feel inferior and humiliated. Another thing you should not do is  give authoritative orders repeatedly,  whether your children have any objections or not. This promotes the feeling that you do not understand them, and that they must follow what the adults say without being able to ask them questions under any circumstances.

Nor should we shout or yell at them and argue for problems that have already been solved,  that are not related to those present. In the same way, contemptuous glances usually hinder dialogue with our children. On the other hand  , marking them by converting a negative behavior into a personality trait  definitely causes  complete rejection.

In addition, you should never  disgrace your children or preach to them at inappropriate times. Instead, you should get their attention in a private and responsible way without offending them.

Reflection

The best thing we can do as parents is to try to stay  calm as we try to get closer to our children. It is important to remember that if we are always upset, it will be very difficult to talk to them properly.

Having quarrels with our children in such a negative emotional state will cause us to express ourselves poorly, allowing us to say things we may regret. If we allow this, our children will close themselves in our company, and even more to our advice.